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“Don’t Touch Me!” When Routine Sparks Resistance

by Dr. Jazmine
Jun 02, 2025
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She just wanted to give her daughter a bath.

It was late. Dinner was over. The baby was finally settled. Ava’s bandwidth was stretched thin. So when she said, “Okay, it’s time to to take a bath,” she didn’t expect it to be a big deal. But her 3-year-old immediately stiffened.

Then came the meltdown.

Screaming. Kicking. Full-body panic. “Don’t make me! Please, no!”

And the moment Ava picked her up to carry her to the bathroom, her daughter flailed so hard that Ava almost dropped her. Her heart cracked. Not because she was angry but because she felt like she was violating something sacred.

But here’s the twist:

Once her daughter was in the shower… she was fine.

Laughing. Splashing. Saying, “I love this!”

Ava felt lost.

“If it’s not the bath she hates… what is it?”

This is where many of us get stuck.

So how do we honor their autonomy… without surrendering to chaos?

What you’ll learn in this issue:

  • Why your child resists everyday routines - even ones they usually enjoy
  • How to invite cooperation without giving up your leadership
  • The exact words that turn resistance into trust during sensitive moments
  • What to stop doing right now if your child melts down at “It’s time to…”
  • A go-to framework for smoother transitions that preserves autonomy and strengthens connection

This issue will help you move from tension to teamwork - turning everyday friction into a chance for trust and growth.

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