"Oops. I forgot.β She's an angel at school but at home, it's a different story.
One of you sent in a question a few weeks ago that I think many of you reading this can relate to,
She described her 8-year-old daughter as fiercely independent, full of life, and expressive. Sheβs the kind of kid who sings while she does everything, and her mom loves that about her. The problem is that her daughter presents very differently at home than school. At school, she's thriving. She...
Thatβs not the kind of mother I want to be β A Mother's Day letter A Mother's Day letter
Last week I tucked my 8-year-old into bed, kissed her forehead, told her I loved her and I loved her beautiful face, and then said with warmth and sincerity (and a little guilt) βbut I don't want to see it again until tomorrow. Stay in your room, please.β She looked up at me and said, without missing a beat, "Yeah, I know. I get it. Even moms need a break."
Yeah, kid. Exactly.
My "break" is n...
βI want my kids to speak up for themselves, but I didn't sign up for disrespect.β
On backtalk, the trigger underneath it, and the mid-spiral pivot that actually works.
Last week I posted something on Threads that I thought was a pretty standard reframe.
"Say it with me: My child arguing with me isn't disrespect. It's a sign they believe their voice matters in this house. That's what I wanted."
To my surprise, it garnered the attention of hundreds of thousands of parents an...

