“Your brain is going to tell you you’re being mean. That doesn’t make the boundary wrong.”
That’s what I told two parents on a recent group coaching call. And I want you to hear it too.
Because right now, the parenting world is caught in a tug-of-war between two camps: gentle parenting and FAFO...
I don’t usually talk about my weight. But today I’m going to.
After my son was born in December 2022, I hit rock bottom.
He was a week overdue. By that point I was so sick and miserable I could barely walk. I remember going to the hospital for the induction and feeling like my body was giving o...
Maria thought she had cracked the code on parenting. Her 3-year-old son, Kai, was thriving at his new preschool. His teacher raved about his behavior during pickup. "He's such a sweet boy," she'd say. "Never any problems here." Even Maria's husband could breeze through bedtime routines without ...
"Every morning, it's the same thing," Priya told me during our coaching call, and I could hear that familiar exhaustion in her voice that so many parents carry. "Zara stands in the preschool line, looks at me with this little smirk, and says 'I don't want to go to school today' in this sad voic...
Mike was trying to get his 5-year-old daughter ready for bed when she completely lost it. She didn't want to brush her teeth, didn't want to put on pajamas, and was melting down about everything. When he gently but firmly guided her toward the bathroom, she spun around and hit him in the chest ...
Last week, my 7-year-old was sprawled on our bedroom floor in full meltdown mode over a shirt. Her and her sister had a disagreement about a shirt and her world had officially ended. I listened, I problem-solved, I offered alternatives.
But 30 minutes before we needed to leave, she was still on...
During a recent coaching call, a dad shared something that made my heart sink because I knew exactly what he was going through.
His 5-year-old son was having explosive tantrums at home over things like wanting a second helping of dessert. Full-on screaming, stomping, demanding behavior that lef...
You walk into the room and see one kid hovering, smirking or looking away.
The other one’s crying.
And you know something just happened.
Maybe someone grabbed something.
Maybe someone knocked over the blocks.
Maybe your older child did that quiet, calculated thing that makes your toddler scream...
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A reframe for when your child demands something out of nowhere (and won’t let it go)
A parent came to our group coaching call frustrated. Her 6-year-old had seen another child wearing a pair of cartoon pajamas and suddenly couldn’t let it go.
"I want those!" he cried.
Over and over. Loud. Pub...
A mom told me recently, “They were fine one second, then suddenly it’s this huge meltdown over who walked into the house first.”
She was exhausted. Not from the yelling itself but from feeling like she had to play judge and jury. Again. And again and again.
“I’m constantly deciding who’s right,...
I need to tell you something that might make you uncomfortable: I have used time-outs with my kids. All three of them. And we have incredible relationships.
I know, I know. You've been told they're harmful. You've read the Instagram graphics about how time-outs create shame and disconnection. Y...
There's this weird moment in parenting where you realize:
You can either try to make your child happy in the moment… or you can actually lead them.
And they are not always the same thing.
We all say we want to raise kind, respectful, responsible kids.
But then the second our child yells "You're...
